“Being social is exhausting.”

This is what people tell themselves when they hit a roadblock or on the brink of giving up. It’s in these pivotal moments where you get to decide to either progress or decline. 

The moments that matter the most are when you want to give up. 

Back in 2010 I remember a coworker of mine and I were getting back from lunch. Food coma was kicking in and we had to re-focus. 

I remember being 10 feet from the front door about to walk in and saying, “How in the world are we supposed to get back to work now?” 

My coworker Brendan laughed and replied, “Mind over matter” pointing to his head.

I had heard that quote before, but for some strange reason, it sunk in a little more in that moment.

He was right.

You could have all the strategies in the world, but if you don’t have the right mental foundation you can mentally break down.

Now, I won’t say I’m the best in the world when it comes to social skills. I definitely don’t have all the answers, but I’ve learned some mental strategies that worked REALLY well for me.

Again, without the right mental foundation, it’s easy to give up and say to yourself, “This is exhausting.” 

It’s easy to walk away from a challenge. It’s easy to give up. It’s easy to do nothing. 

But how can you change if your mindset isn’t evolving?

Here are the two strategies to improve when you feel exhaustion settling in:

  1. Take a deep breath and remind yourself that the discomfort you are feeling is a signal that you are learning. If you are comfortable and complacent how can you change? From now on, seek the struggle. 
  1. Learn to love the process of learning. For me personally, rejection gives me an adrenaline rush in a weird way unlike anything else. I look forward to it, because inside I know I’ll come out with some learning. When you view your losses as wins, you can’t lose. This is how you can begin to relax.

Keep these mental strategies in mind when you feel exhausted and be as consistent as possible. Let your skills evolve and watch the progress.

By the way, I suffer from anxiety

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